Sometimes, it’s hard to remember that we were made for a purpose. That each of us was created to love and be loved. It’s easier to wall ourselves off, to shut down, or to use others instead of opening our hearts to love.
Obviously, there’s a lot going against us in the battle for love. It’s not just looking for love in all the wrong places or using an inadequate or wrong definition of love, we’ve been hurt by opening ourselves up to love. We’ve been broken by becoming vulnerable. Our wounds make us defensive. Make us hesitant.
At best, this world wants us to remain ignorant of the love we should share. At worst, it wants to corrupt love and spoil the wonderful, selfless gift that it should be.
The more we struggle, the more we close ourselves off to real love, real affection, and authentic friendships, the more we begin to believe the lies. We forget our worth, our beauty, and our strength.
We forget the truth: we are all children of God. We are all beautiful. Even when you don’t see it or can’t see it or refuse to see it, someone will. You are beautiful.
But, if we aren’t open to love, we aren’t open to God since God is love (1 John 4:8).
When we rely on ourselves, we falter and break. When we look to the author of our faith, we know the price He paid for us. There isn’t anything you can do to earn this gift of love. He wants to walk beside you and carry you.
All I need to do is trust that He has a plan, conform my heart to want what He wants for me, seek hard for Him, and love.
A tall order some days. Love doesn’t come easy. Or overnight. It takes work. It’s a battle to deny myself and put someone else first. But, I can do it through God’s grace and with His help and guidance.
I may never see your brokenness or the struggle you face, I don’t know what you’ve been through or what barriers you’ve erected to block love. I can’t offer any words to fix you or make it okay. I can only offer to sit beside you in silence while I contemplate my own brokenness, to try to make you laugh when you’d rather not, or let you cry when you need to. I’m not perfect and I won’t ever be while I’m on Earth, but when I am weak, then He is made strong (1 Corinthians 1: 26-31).